I consider myself an observer. A observer of what? Everything. As a youngin' I was a major shit talker and my mouth got me in trouble all the time. As I got older I stopped talking shit(well, kept it to a minimal) and just started watching. Now as a writer/poet being a observer keeps me inspired because I can write something based off of anything.
The one thing I've always observed is relationships people have with eachother and the relationsips I keep myself. Living with three females has given so much insight on how girls keep their relationships. I've noticed girls take stuff way more personal then it should be ever taken. Sometimes I want to say "chill out everything is going to be fine" or "don't worry" but sometimes saying nothing is the best thing you can do. The other thing I've noticed is how they handle themselves with the oppostie sex. Living with girls I've overheard enough stuff to make me go "wtf?" I want to yell out and smack some sense into these girls because if they saw things from the other side they might just understand. But then again this is not my place to say how certain things work.
The relationship I observe is people's relationship with family. I've had my fair share of family problems and sometimes I feel I need to bed related to Dr. Phil. My relatioship with my mom is totally different then the one I have with my dad, which in turn is completely different then the one with my sister. But the similarity they do share is that I approach each one with caution because each one is fragile and need to be handled gently. I honestly feel like if I was completely open, feelings would get hurt and if I told my loved ones how I felt, I probably wouldn't have a relationship with them.
As I sit here and write about this I noticed something about myslef. No matter what relationship I have family/friend/etc I never put too much out there. When you put yourself out there people are going to judge, thats just the nature of the beast. If you put too much out there then people like to pick, prod and judge. So I don't need to put a lot of myself out there because then people like to take that and make assumptions. Jumping to conclustion is something you should never be proud of because in the long run it just makes you look like an ass. I know, I've dont thing before and made an ass of myself.
After all of this my advice for relationship is keep them separate don't one affect the other. Hold your most personal relationships sacred and close because if you don't people are going to jump in and fuck with your head.